Technically I'm not a stay at home mom. I work part-time outside of the home. But I was for a long while. It's different being at home. It can be isolated and isolating. People assume you have time you don't have, that it's luxurious. And when you decide to emerge from your cocoon sometimes people treat you as if your brain has turned to mush.
I have a friend that is staying at home for them it is a choice of affordable child care and not being able to work due to one person's schedule. I've been poking this individual so that they won't feel the same way I did when I emerged from my cocoon.
I felt as if no one took me seriously. That I hadn't done anything with my time. The truth is I have raised and continue to raise two wonderful girls but I hadn't taken an classes nothing to keep me current.Which in the outside world didn't make me valuable to employers. And there was fear. Fear of competing with younger more savvy individuals. Fear of not measuring up.
The truth is I need to work part time. I have to be there for my kids. I have to be there for my husband.
I did start writing three years ago. I found my voice. I have a goal. All human beings need a goal. Something to look forward to. We get bogged down in the everyday especially when you stay at home your entire focus becomes about what is going on with that little being you're taking care of.
That's not wrong. It's a good thing.
But eventually they go to school. They need you in different ways. And you as a person need to learn and grow as well. Because eventually they leave the nest. They become adults who hopefully have become self sufficient and if you haven't had a goal in mind, you might just end up lost. Unless you're an adventurous soul who wants to find a new reason for being, and wants to have fun in the process of doing so.
I guess what I'm saying is don't take yourself for granted. Your family needs you and you need you too. Sometimes it might seem like an up hill battle. Just put on foot in front of the other and keep walking. Because sometimes it's just a matter of buying that book that interest you or taking time out to attend a lecture or even just taking five minutes for yourself. It's not selfish it's looking after you so you can look after everybody else.
Remember one foot in front of the other and you can achieve anything.
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
January is almost over!
January is almost over. Already the race to the finish has begun. It seems as if every time I blink another day is done.
Today one of my co workers reminded me of a childhood favorite movie. Labyrinth.
Ah yes David Bowie as the goblin king.
Today one of my co workers reminded me of a childhood favorite movie. Labyrinth.
Ah yes David Bowie as the goblin king.
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Meet Savannah Stuart!
Miami Heat by Savannah Stuart is now available from Loose Id!
What’s it about?
When Madison Dubois witnesses a terrible crime, she goes to the only place she knows she'll be safe, Detective Rafe Jackson's house. Rafe has been in love with Madison Dubois for longer than he cares to admit. Unfortunately for him, she views him as a big brother. When she shows up on his doorstep terrified for her life, he has no choice but to keep her safe. Undeniable sparks fly when they're forced to share a roof but unless he can keep her alive, their relationship might not have a chance to even start.
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To learn more about Savannah, visit her website: www.savannahstuart.com
What’s it about?
When Madison Dubois witnesses a terrible crime, she goes to the only place she knows she'll be safe, Detective Rafe Jackson's house. Rafe has been in love with Madison Dubois for longer than he cares to admit. Unfortunately for him, she views him as a big brother. When she shows up on his doorstep terrified for her life, he has no choice but to keep her safe. Undeniable sparks fly when they're forced to share a roof but unless he can keep her alive, their relationship might not have a chance to even start.
Click here for purchase info: http://alturl.com/8sba
Click here: http://alturl.com/ejnk or here: http://alturl.com/o2sd for CONTEST info. And feel free to re-tweet or blog the contest information!
To learn more about Savannah, visit her website: www.savannahstuart.com
Monday, January 18, 2010
Part of my soundtrack to Psychokinesis.
I'm rewriting Psycokenesis. It took me a while but I'm on a roll. Here's a taste of the soundtrack I work to.
The lyrics to this song actually encompass what I'm trying to show in my characters.
All the right friends in all the right places
So yeah, we're going down
They've got
All the right moves in all the right faces
So yeah, we're going down
Let's paint the picture
Of the perfect place
They've got it better then when anyone's told ya
They'll be the King of Hearts, and your the Queen of Spades
Then we'll fight for you like we were your soldiers
I know we've got it good
But they've got it made
And the grass is getting greener each day
I know things are looking up, but soon they'll take us down
Before anybody's knowing our name
They've got...
All the right friends in all the right places
So yeah, we're going down
They've got
All the right moves in all the right faces
So yeah, we're going down
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
Do you think I'm special?
Do you think I'm nice?
Am I bright enough to shine in your spaces?
Between the noise you hear, and the sounds you like
Are we just sinking the ocean of faces?
It can't be possible... the rain can fall
Only when it's over our heads.
The sun is shining everyday, but it's far away.
Over the world that's dead.
They've got, they've got...
All the right friends in all the right places
So yeah, we're going down
They've got
All the right moves in all the right faces
So yeah, we're going down
[Repeat]
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
It don't matter what you see
I know I could never be
Someone that'll look like you.
It don't matter what you say
I know I could never fake
Someone that could sound like you.
All the right friends in all the right places
So yeah, we're going down
They've got
All the right moves in all the right faces
So yeah, we're going down
[Repeat]
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
Yeah, we're going down [repeat x2]
All the right moves... heeey
Yeah we're going down
They say
All the right moves... heeey
Yeah we're going down
The lyrics to this song actually encompass what I'm trying to show in my characters.
All the right friends in all the right places
So yeah, we're going down
They've got
All the right moves in all the right faces
So yeah, we're going down
Let's paint the picture
Of the perfect place
They've got it better then when anyone's told ya
They'll be the King of Hearts, and your the Queen of Spades
Then we'll fight for you like we were your soldiers
I know we've got it good
But they've got it made
And the grass is getting greener each day
I know things are looking up, but soon they'll take us down
Before anybody's knowing our name
They've got...
All the right friends in all the right places
So yeah, we're going down
They've got
All the right moves in all the right faces
So yeah, we're going down
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
Do you think I'm special?
Do you think I'm nice?
Am I bright enough to shine in your spaces?
Between the noise you hear, and the sounds you like
Are we just sinking the ocean of faces?
It can't be possible... the rain can fall
Only when it's over our heads.
The sun is shining everyday, but it's far away.
Over the world that's dead.
They've got, they've got...
All the right friends in all the right places
So yeah, we're going down
They've got
All the right moves in all the right faces
So yeah, we're going down
[Repeat]
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
It don't matter what you see
I know I could never be
Someone that'll look like you.
It don't matter what you say
I know I could never fake
Someone that could sound like you.
All the right friends in all the right places
So yeah, we're going down
They've got
All the right moves in all the right faces
So yeah, we're going down
[Repeat]
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
They say
Everybody knows, everybody knows where we're going
Yeah, we're going down
Yeah, we're going down [repeat x2]
All the right moves... heeey
Yeah we're going down
They say
All the right moves... heeey
Yeah we're going down
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Introducing, Author Jax Cassidy!
Release date: January 10, 2010
Publisher: Amber Heat
Publisher: Amber Heat
ISBN-13: 978-1-60272-627-7 (Electronic)
*Heat warning: erotic, explicit sex scenes, language
For Sage, attending the Parisian sex club, Plaisirs Sombres, was the ultimate fantasy. So when the conservative gallery assistant is cloaked behind the velvet mask, she never expected to be the object of the club owner's desire. Spurred on by D.S. Gregoire's erotic and sensual brush strokes of the exclusive club, she gives into a brief liaison that leaves her breathless and wanting.
For Damien, known to the art world as D.S. Gregoire, his art has always been an adrenaline rush. But when an exotic and mysteriously uninhibited 'sex club virgin' enters his establishment, he is willing to break his club rules for another taste of the dark pleasures she brings him.
Author Bio:
Jax Cassidy followed her dreams to Paris, then Hollywood to pursue a film career but managed to fall in love with penning sexy romances and happy endings— finding Mr. Right was just an added bonus. She writes contemporary, paranormal, and multi-ethnic romances and is Co-Founder of Romance Divas, and award winning writer’s website and discussion forum. Jax is also known as one-half of the retired writing team of Cassidy Kent.
For more information on Jax, please visit her online at www.jaxcassidy.com or www.jaxadora.blogspot.com
*Heat warning: erotic, explicit sex scenes, language
For Sage, attending the Parisian sex club, Plaisirs Sombres, was the ultimate fantasy. So when the conservative gallery assistant is cloaked behind the velvet mask, she never expected to be the object of the club owner's desire. Spurred on by D.S. Gregoire's erotic and sensual brush strokes of the exclusive club, she gives into a brief liaison that leaves her breathless and wanting.
For Damien, known to the art world as D.S. Gregoire, his art has always been an adrenaline rush. But when an exotic and mysteriously uninhibited 'sex club virgin' enters his establishment, he is willing to break his club rules for another taste of the dark pleasures she brings him.
Jax Cassidy followed her dreams to Paris, then Hollywood to pursue a film career but managed to fall in love with penning sexy romances and happy endings—
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Resolution redux!
It occurred to me that my New Years resolutions had a lot to do being true to myself. So I'm giving the same advice to you guys.
PS. thanks so much for reading this blog.
PS. thanks so much for reading this blog.
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