Tuesday, August 28, 2012

My Favorite Heroines.

Sprinkled throughout this post are the book covers for the heroines I love.

Elena Deveraux

A friend and I have a long running conversation. Heroines. We're both of the opinion that heroine's these days come in all sorts. But, I've noticed that a lot o them are hard. Now I'm not saying that I don't love kick ass heroines. I do.

Gin Blanco

What I don't like is when I can't discern any amount of softness in a female character. Yes I want my heroine to be able to take on the world that doesn't mean she has to be such a hard ass that we lose track of her femininity.

Mina Wentworth

To be fair I like my Hero's to read like real men too. I don't like the implausible. Being super human just isn't possible unless I'm reading Science fiction, fantasy or graphic novels.

Angie Powell

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I want to see the human being beneath the facade. Just as in life I like to see the cracks and know that the people/characters are rising above their limitations to be who they are. Even in my paranormal stories, having fur and claws  just bring on different issues or magnify them.

Sirantha Jax     
Each one of these heroines has depth. Each is vulnerable. All are able to kick ass, without us forgetting she's a woman.

Mercedes Thompson

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Naked Princes Hurray! Or just another cautionary tale.

Honestly as I get older the more I believe we should just let people alone. Prince Harry has been caught naked on camera in vegas. I know shocking! http://www.tmz.com/2012/08/21/prince-harry-naked-photos-nude-vegas-hotel-party/

I think this says more about the quality of his friends than anything else. Dude, be careful who you hangout with. They might take inappropriate pictures of you.

Betrayal is a common theme these days and has been throughout time. The likelyhood only increases with the visibilty of the individual and or the power they yield. This is just a heads up to those of us who might need a warning.

Thursday, August 9, 2012

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Fantasies (warning not my usual g rated post)

I'd originally planned this blog as Male fantasies versus Female fantasies.

I hadn't event thought about this topic until the other day when I realized some of my favorite authors had moved into the erotic genre and not only were the writing one on one sex they were writing menage a trois (threesomes) and other seemingly forbidden fantasies.

So  after hearing derogatory phrases like "mommy porn" and  "Smut books," The list goes on. It got me to thinking about the differences between men and women and their fantasies and how they indulge them. Then I realized how unfair it is to pidgeon hole men and women,  and so the topic then became Fantasies.

Yes men and women can differ on what they want, but surprisingly most of their fantasies line up.  This list is in no way scientific and is complied from many articles and lists found in many places, as well as I interviewed a ton of my friends.

You can disagree or a agree but this is what I've discovered. In no particular order:

  • Sex with the same gender (Female/Male)
  • Bondage/Domination (Female/Male)
  • Anal Sex( Female/Male)
    • Includes pegging
  • Group sex (Female/Male)
    • Threesomes and the like
  • Exhibitionism (Female/Male)
  • Voyeurism  (Female/Male)
  • Masturbation for/of partner (Female/Male)
  • Oral sex (Female/Male)
Men and women  are often taught to feel shame about their fantasies but I find that it's more acceptable for guys to look at porn, or vocalize their fantasies. 

For women there is still the feeling for a lot of women that sex is dirty or that vocalizing their fantasies is unacceptable. Or even that looking porn is something to be ashamed of.Or that reading an erotic novel is somehow shameful.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, this. We have common ground if you're willing to look for it and not at the differences. Hope this helps anyone out there who might need a little help vocalizing their needs and or wants with their partner.